BREAKING CYCLES, ACTUALLY

I pray all those reading this have come from generations that have tried continuously to break cycles for the next. It is the one thing that takes a lifetime to do and even then the deed isn't always done.  I wish I started therapy earlier, I appreciate all that my therapist has taught me and offered me through listening, being receptive and offering me new ways of looking at life through a lens of what I truly desire for my future. Beginning to understand where my anxiety and fears stem from and it offering me an opportunity to change the trajectory of which I am headed by being given that clarity, my therapist as well as I have noticed the change in how I give myself grace and respond differently to situations than I would have previously. One of the biggest pills I have realized in this journey is that MY TRAUMA DOES NOT MATTER... yeah, it is a hard thing to say for most. When I say it doesn't matter I'm not saying it in the sense it doesn't matter at all or my experiences don't matter, but when you are choosing to continue on this thing we call life, and especially now for myself as a mother, in regards to raising my son and creating a family I did not come from and wanting the future I desire, my trauma doesn't matter anymore. I and others, cannot continue to use our trauma as a crutch for the way we go about life. It is one thing to come to the realizations of how the past correlates to the present but there has to come a time where we remind ourselves that now how we react presently molds our future. If a a decision we choose to embrace becomes a habit, maybe looking at it like our reactions to people and the world. Do better now, every time, this is not for instant results, sometimes it may have them but it's for the longterm goals of where we want to be headed. We see many people having the mindset of " well I went through this so my kids need to know the struggle" what a way to condone repeating cycles?! I think with therapy people think its just talking about the past or even without therapy, many think divulging in why we do things based on our past can seem pointless or empty as the time has already passed; but once you have had the realization of why you do things and how the past has affected your way of thinking and rationalization, you are better able to make better decisions and move with that self awareness.